🪷 Being magnetic isn’t about your personality: it’s about this

Hi friends,

There’s this idea I haven’t been able to stop thinking about lately:

Being a loud listener.

Most of us have grown up believing we should try to be more interesting: more magnetic, more extroverted, more noticeable. Loud talkers often get the spotlight. They seem confident, charismatic, unforgettable.

But I’ve been realizing something: I don’t want to be a loud talker.

I want to be a loud listener.

Not just someone who hears what people say. But someone who makes others feel heard.

WHAT “LOUD LISTENING” LOOKS LIKE

“Don’t try to be interesting. Be interested instead.”

Hearing is easy. It’s short-term memory. It’s surface-level. Listening, true listening, is emotional attunement. It’s quiet, curious, and incredibly powerful.

When I think about the people I feel safest with, they’re not the ones who dominate the conversation. They’re the ones who give their attention freely. And for me, attention is a love language. It’s how I give and receive love: not through grand gestures, but through presence.

Being a loud listener means…

Not waiting for your turn to talk.
Not trying to impress, interrupt, or outperform.
But instead, holding space for someone else’s thoughts until they find their own answers, something I see all the time in therapy.

It’s patient. It’s powerful. And it’s magnetic in a completely different way.

There’s a quote I recently came across that captures it perfectly:

“I went out to find a friend and couldn’t find one there. So I went out to be a friend, and friends were everywhere.”

I think the same is true for connection: I went out to be interesting, and no one was impressed. But I went out to be interested, and connection was everywhere.

BEING INTERESTED IN A LIFE PRACTICE

This shift isn’t just about conversation. It’s about how we live.

I don’t want to live my life trying to appear interesting.

I want to be interested in:

Learning deeply (not just collecting hot takes)
My own mind-body connection through yoga
The work I do on YouTube
Other people’s stories, ideas, and experiences
Living with curiosity instead of comparison

And ironically? That’s what actually makes someone interesting.

Because people who are truly interested in life: who care, who listen, who study things deeply and speak when it matters, those are the people I’m drawn to.

So here’s your gentle reminder for this week:

You don’t need to be louder. Just be present.
You don’t need to impress. Just be curious.
You don’t need to talk more. Just listen better.

Talk soon,
Veronika 🤍

P.S. Is attention one of your love languages too? Hit reply, I’d love to know.

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