😬 I took a spontaneous trip without a plan as a control freak (and had fun)

Hi friends,

If you’ve been here a while, you know I’m a planner. A control freak, even 🥲

I plan my work, my meals, my weeks, my trips. I create Notion pages, research itineraries, and love knowing exactly what’s coming next.

So you can probably imagine how out-of-character it was when I said ‘yes’ to a completely spontaneous four-day trip with my husband and his family this month.

No itinerary. No plan. Just: Friday to Monday. Let’s go ✈️

We went to Guadalajara, rented a car (which I never do when I travel), and explored the little towns nearby. Hot springs. Quiet restaurants. Unexpected places. We even saw the largest freshwater lake in Mexico.

And I loved every minute of it.

Here’s the wild part: I didn’t stress. I didn’t overthink. I didn’t wake up and need to know exactly what we were doing that day.

One moment especially stood out to me. On our last day, we kind of…did nothing for the whole morning. No plans, no destinations. Just time at the hotel, sitting around, being together.

And for the first time in a long time, I didn’t see it as “wasted” time. Because I had made peace with what this trip was really about: not checking boxes, but being with my family. That was the plan—and we were following it.

I guess what I’m trying to say is: therapy is working. Self-improvement is working.

It’s not always loud or obvious. But if you’re doing the work—reading, reflecting, healing—it shows up in moments like these.

Moments where your old self might have panicked…but your current self just breathes.

Moments where you let go, even a little. And feel…free.

My therapist always reminds me: being a planner is a beautiful thing. It brings structure, discipline, and momentum into your life. (Honestly, I owe so much of my success to it.)

But that doesn’t mean I have to grip everything with control.

She says: “You don’t have to stop planning completely—you just have to plan differently.”

So this time, I planned for my emotional state. I brought my yoga mat. My skincare. My little rituals that help me feel grounded. I let go of controlling the events—and focused on how I wanted to feel.

This is what feminine energy means to me:

That flowy state. The one where you don’t need to control every detail of the future. You’re not trying to predict, fix, or force. You’re just here. Present.

And that’s exactly what this trip gave me.

So, if you needed a reminder today:
You’re allowed to let go a little.
You’re allowed to be soft, spontaneous, present.

Your self-growth is working. Even if you don’t see it yet. Even if it’s only visible in small moments—those moments count.

Talk soon,
Veronika 🤍